Weíve all heard of the seven sins Ė pride, envy, gluttony, greed, lust, anger and sloth. Motherhood is a breeding ground for these so-called sins, and you know what? Itís fine (and perfectly normal) to feel every single one of them.
Pride or vanity
No, weíre not talking about taking pride in our appearances or being vain Ė us mothers are way too busy for that now. We're talking about the overwhelming pride you'll take in your childís development.
Why itís ok to be proud: Itís ok to be proud of your childís achievements Ė major developments such as walking and talking are a huge thing for parents. Just try to refrain from excessive bragging Ė instead, offer some words of encouragement to kids (and parents) who havenít quite got there yet. All kids are different and parenthood is not a competition.
Had a late walker or talker? You will find yourself envying those mums and their babies who rolled first, crawled first, walked first, talked firstÖthe list is endless.
C'mon...please please please crawl before mum's group on Tuesday!
Why itís ok to feel envy sometimes: While itís perfectly normal to feel envious of the achievements of other peopleís kids, donít put too much pressure on yourself or think that your childís development is in some way a reflection on your parenting. Rolling, crawling, walking, talking, reading, writingÖ.all of these things will happen eventually, and just remember that kids develop at their own pace. Had enough of insufferable bragging? I have two words Ė IGNORE and UNFOLLOW.
You will find yourself stuffing chocolate into your mouth while hiding in the pantry.
Why itís ok to feel gluttony: Sometimes, all you want to do is eat that entire packet of double choc Tim Tams to yourself, when you want it. Is that too much to ask, dammit! No. As mothers, we rarely get anything to ourselves, let alone Tim Tams. Give yourself a break Ė find a special hiding spot for the biscuits and enjoy them with a cup of tea after the kids have gone to bed.
My favourite 'meal' of the day.
There will be times when you want your newborn baby all to yourself, to bask in all their new little life glory and to not let go.
Why itís ok to feel greedy: Your postpartum days are a haze of hormones, raw emotion and an overwhelming need to protect this tiny baby youíve just spent nine months nurturing inside your body. Itís ok to feel like this! Unfortunately, youíre going to have to go with the flow on this one, as family and friends demand to see, hold and kiss the babyÖbut donít worry Ė these thoughts wonít last as fatigue sets in and you genuinely welcome the opportunity for someone else to watch bub for an hour while you nap.
You will lust Ė lust after a day of lounging on the couch, binge-watching Netflix, a day in bed and a minute or two to drink your coffee in peace.
Why itís ok to feel lust: You will find yourself lusting after your own space, your own Ďmeí time and you will definitely lust after a good night sleep. Itís ok to want and ask for help with the baby, the housework, the laundry Ė anything to help you cope with the never-ending demands of motherhood.
Troubles with breastfeeding, a lack of sleep, the loneliness of being a stay at home mum, the realisation that this motherhood business is bloody hard work - can all make you feel angry, sad, frustrated, irritated and just about every other emotion under the sun.
Now THIS makes me ANGRY!
Why itís ok to be angry: Itís understandable to feel angry when your husband drops his underpants just outside the washing basket (GRRRR!!) or doesnít offer to help, but be sure to communicate your feelings and emotions. If youíre silent about not coping, how will anyone know how you feel? You could also reach out to other mums in your area via a playgroup to combat those lonely days, and be sure talk about any troubles you are having with feeding, sleeping and settling the baby. Even just talking it out can help beat feelings of anger and frustration.
Donít want to take a shower or get out of your pyjamas? Do it.
Why itís ok to be a sloth: Some days, everything can wait. Showering, dressing, washing, the dirty dishes Ė those early days spent breastfeeding for two hours at a time mean you canít always do a lot, so donít beat yourself up if the house looks like a tornado struck and nothing is getting done. Some days simply call for rest and relaxation.
Leave it. Leave it all.
Feeling one (or all) of the seven sins is nothing to be ashamed of. Even after the baby comes along and the kids grow up, you're still a person too and us mums deserve to do a little sinning sometimes.