When I had my first baby, I rarely ventured out of the house for any type of activity, including mothers group. This was partly because I was trying to keep my daughter on a nap schedule and partly because I’m a bit of an introvert. Fortunately, most of my girlfriends had babies shortly after I did, and with our babies so close in age, my regular friends naturally became my “mum friends”, and our children have become each other’s playmates.
However, as my first baby has grown up, and since having my second baby, I’ve come to realise that you can never have too many “mum friends”. While I may have missed out on that initial mother’s group experience, I’ve made new friendships with mums (and dads) in other ways, through my daughter’s everyday activities. Here are 5 ways you can meet other mums:
1) Sports/Extracurricular Activities
My 4 year old does gymnastics, swimming and ballet classes and seeing the same mums every week gives us a great chance to chat while we watch our children do their activities, instead of just sitting silently. Sometimes we email each other photos we take of each other’s kids during their end of year performances.
Some mums avoid playgroups because they find them cliquey, but it’s often just a case of finding the right one. Playgroups can be really structured, or a lot more laid-back. I prefer the groups that are held outside at a park rather than in a church hall, where the kids can run around and have a picnic lunch, but there’s lots of different types. You can even create your own, rather than joining an existing one, by contacting the Playgroup Australia organisation in your State.
Most mums and dads are in a rush to get to work at morning drop off and afternoon pick up for daycare and school. The social occasions that are organised by the school, such as the morning teas for Mothers and Fathers Day, or the annual Christmas celebration, are a better opportunity to chat. I find that I tend to speak to most of my daughter's friend's parents, which has led to birthday party invitations and catch ups outside school on several occasions.
4) Birthday Parties
Birthday parties bring mums together from all different circles, including the places I’ve already mentioned, as well as the host’s neighbours, family members and personal friends. I usually attend at least one birthday party each month, so I see some of the same mums several times in the space of a few weeks, which makes it easy to become friendly. Siblings are usually invited too.
5) Online Facebook groups
Not all mum friends have to be people you meet in person. Facebook groups have made make it possible to chat to mums, where your friendship is purely online. Sometimes mums like to catch up offline too though, with or without the kids, such as going to mums only movie nights at the local cinema. Facebook groups are really useful for mums who have moved and want to meet new people. Join one of the Facebook groups below to meet other mums in your local city: